Fearful of Starting a Business

fearful of starting a business

Are You Fearful of Starting a Business. ?

What is fear ? The definition of fear according to the dictionary is as follows:

  1. A distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, pain, etc., whether the threat is real or imagined; the feeling or condition of being afraid.
  2. A specific instance of or propensity for such a feeling: an abnormal fear of heights.
  3. Concern or anxiety; solicitude: a fear for someone’s safety.
  4. Reverential awe, especially toward God: the fear of God.
  5. Something that causes feelings of dread or apprehension; something a person is afraid of: Cancer is a common fear.
  6. Anticipation of the possibility that something unpleasant will occur: Having grown up during the Great Depression, he had a constant fear of running out of money.
  7. To regard with fear; be afraid of.
  8. To have reverential awe of.
  9. To consider or anticipate (something unpleasant) with a feeling of dread or alarm: It’s about to snow again, I fear.
  10. Archaic. to experience fear in (oneself): I fear me he will ne’er forgive us.

Wow thats quite a list of things to be fearful of, no wonder most people never start their own businesses or take much risk when it comes to making money.  

We have all been bought up to believe that we should go to school, get good grades, then get a good job as this has always been the safest way to guarantee that we could make a regular income to provide a roof over our heads and keep food on the table.  

This system has worked great over the last 100 years or so but we are now in the age of information and it is so easy for normal people like you and me to build up a successful business and create a great income that can set us on the path to being financially free.

Fear is what is holding most people back when it comes to making the decision to take control of their own destiny and keeping them chained to their job.

For years i was this person, always looking for the next job that was going to give me more job security and more pay.  

Thats is until i worked out what fear really meant.

FEAR stands for, False Evidence Appearing Real or False Emotion Appearing Real.  

I personally prefer the 2nd option, False Emotion Appearing Real.  

False Emotion Appearing Real.

Fearful of Starting a Business

Basically fear is just an emotion that every person on the planet has inside them, the difference between people that are successful and those that are not is that the successful person has managed to conquer their fear so that it no longer effects them.  

This emotion of fear that we build up inside ourselves is also connected to our own beliefs and these beliefs have been programmed into us from a very young age.

Let me take you back to when you were just a little baby, you have just started to crawl or even walk around while wearing those big white padded nappies, not very stylish i know but bear with me a little.  

As a child you had no idea what the word fear even meant let alone what it is, so you would quite happily fumble around the house looking for things that would interest you and for things to play with, i know my mom had to stop me on more than a few occasions from sticking my finger into the gas fire that we had in the living room as i had no idea of how dangerous it would have been if i had managed to succeed.  

It is only due to what i have been made to believe by my parents that i now know what damage it would have caused me.

Now i am not saying that we should all go out and stick our fingers into a gas fire as this will achieve nothing apart from a trip to the hospital.

The point that i am trying to make here is that most of our fears that we now have as adults have been given to us by our parents and the people we have listened to while we were in the early years of our brains development.

Fear is something that we have learnt over the years, the main types of fear that most people suffer from is the fear of being rejected or the fear of failure and it is these types of fear that are holding most people back when it come to taking control of their own financial security and start building their own business.

As teenagers we were always looking to meet new people that we could start a relationship with but how many times have you been in a club and have seen someone that you really liked but for some reason you could not bring yourself to bite the bullet and go over to that person and start a conversation, i know i missed a lot of opportunities to speak to someone that i was very attracted to because of the fear of being rejected.

So where does the fear of failure come from ? Well to be honest it mainly comes from our parents and the school system that we all grow up with, i personally hated going to school as i didn’t think they were teaching me what i needed to know about the real world and how to really succeed in it.

I am not saying that we should not try our best while studying at school, however i don’t think they offer the kind of education that is going to make you a successful business person, in fact they don’t won’t to teach you how to become an entrepreneur as the school system has been built around the idea of getting good grades so that you can get a good job.

If you didn’t get the grades that you needed then you had very little chance of getting the job you so desperately wanted.

The school system is basically a massive factory producing lots of workers that have all the skills required to fill the positions that we as business owners need to help us make our businesses successful and create an income that can make us financially free.

Getting Past The Fear.

fearful of starting a business

So how do we get past the the fear of failure and being rejected, it is actually a lot easier than you think.

You are going to have to train your brain and change the way you think about various situations that you are going to have to put yourself in to.

One way that i found to help me beat my fears was to get in to a sales job, now this may not sound ground breaking in any way but for me it was a massive step, as a young kid i found it very hard to talk whenever i was in a large group of people and i wouldn’t speak unless someone spoke to me first, so to go in to a sales job were i had to go in to other peoples homes and try to sell them something this was a massive step forward.

Even sales people have the fear of being rejected and i know a lot of sales people who to this day still struggle to ask the person directly for their business, what you have to remember is that you have the right to ask the question “do they want to buy from you” and that they have the right to say no but if you don’t ask you don’t get as the old saying goes.

You don’t all have to run out and get a sales job unless you really want to, however you could look to buy a few books about what makes a good sales person and put some of those techniques in to practice whenever you find yourself in a situation where you are fearful of being rejected.

One of the best ways to overcome your fears is to find people that have been where you are now and have beat their fears, Find a mentor or a group of people that are all trying to achieve similar goals as you and learn and ask questions of them.

You don’t have to do it on your own like you have been taught at school, in business you are allowed to benefit from the help of others in fact one of the best ways to make a lot of money is to leverage the time of others so that you are not doing all of the work yourself.

Please feel free to leave me your comments and thoughts below.

Mark owner of GetOutTheRatRace.com

18 Comments

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    • Hi Michael,

      Glad you enjoyed it, fear is one of the main reasons that people never do what they really want to and having help from all the people that are part of the community at Wealthy Affiliate can help you overcome those fears.

  • hi Mark
    fear is one heck of a complicated emotion and you clarified it well in this post. It stems from so many different things and sources and can be paralyzing. I like your idea of talking with people who have been there. That can bring a sense of comfort and can be quite reassuring.

    • Hi Emily,

      Glad you enjoyed the post. Fear is one of the reasons it took me so long to take control of my life and not be dependant on working for someone else. Its the best move i ever made and i have never looked back. Finding help is what helped me out the most and finding a mentor that i could ask questions of about things i did not fully understand was a great benefit to me.

  • Hi Mark, your article is great. It kinda sums up my fear actually. And the way you put it is freakishly accurate. I was like you too and I can totally relate to your post. So here I am trying out WA! Great job!

    • Hi Stephanie,

      Wealthy Affiliate is a great place to find like minded people to help you overcome any fears that you may have and if ever i can be of any help to you just let me know.

  • I had read a book years ago that discussed this very subject. They talked about the fear of failure and how people are embarrassed and afraid that they will fail.

    The author said ya sure you might fail and people might say something but only for awhile and then they forget. Then the author pointed many people in the public eye and how they have failed -big time- and after a few months or years they were back in the public eye and starting over. Occasionally someone brought up their failure but the majority completely forgot all about it!

    “We have nothing to fear, but fear itself!” Franklin D. Roosevelt

    • Hi Travis,

      Fear of failing holds so many people back in life, i have learnt over the years that without taking a little risk you will never get any of the rewards in life. Everyone has this fear inside them but some people learn how to deal with it buy taking little steps forward. Never be afraid to fail as long as you learn from your mistakes and move forward.

  • Getting past the fear is probably the hardest part, people don’t want to go through that when they know they could just choose to not deal with it. That’s why I’ve chosen affiliate marketing as my online business so that I have nothing to lose really but time. There are many options that aren’t disgraceful when lost.

    • Hi Sarah,

      You are right Sarah, people would rather shy away from dealing with that fear as it is the easier option to take, which means they never have any difficult decisions to make.

  • The single biggest reason for not starting a business is fear of failure. I think that you have expressed that very well and you provide a great solution with your recommendation – thank you

    • Hi Terry,

      Glad you have enjoyed the post, if you ever need any help then just let me know.

  • Most people don’t know where to start when first setting their ideas in motion. Great way of doing it is hanging with like minded people. Start out by finding someone who achieved the goal you’ve set for yourself. Study them, and set your business up that reach out for advice. Biggest thing is not to allow fear to prevent you from achieving your dreams. Take a step forward and see what happens. Concur with your number #1 product to create a business. Great place for newbies to start and get help needed to start their business with a small start-up cost.

    Cheers
    Tony

    • Hi Tony,

      You are right you have to just take a leap of faith and jump right in and get started. Having a mentor has certainly helped me out a lot and i now feel like i am heading in the right direction in life.

  • Truly inspiring article. i think getting past fear in business is really important because it’s always the risk taken that leads to success, especially in today’s age! This reminds me of Bob Proctor’s teaching on Fear, look it up on youtube!
    Matt TheDopestMatrix

    • Hi Matt,

      Glad you liked this post, i will have a look on YouTube for that.

  • Very awesome article about fearful of starting a business my friend.
    I will share my personal issue about this.
    There is always fear in me and it’s not easy to treat it. Since I have tried direct-selling and approach strangers on the street, I am now more confident. Sometime, our fear will take control over the situation. One thing that make me overcome fear is by forcing myself and just DO it.

    • Hi Edy,

      I was exactly the same as you are, it has taken me many years to overcome my personal fears. All i can say to you is to keep pushing yourself, it will take time but trust me you can overcome it.

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